Relationship OCD (ROCD) is a type of OCD that is characterized by intrusive thoughts, images, and doubts about one’s relationship. People with ROCD may constantly question whether they are truly in love with their partner, or whether their partner is really the right person for them. ROCD can be extremely distressing and can cause significant problems in one’s personal and professional life.
If you think you might have ROCD, it’s important to seek professional help. In this article, we’ll provide an overview of ROCD, including its symptoms, causes, and treatment options.
What is Relationship OCD?
ROCD is a form of OCD (obsessive compulsive disorder) that affects the romantic relationships of people who have OCD. Relationship OCD is a form of OCD with intrusive thoughts, images, and doubts about one’s relationship. People with ROCD may constantly question whether they are truly in love with their partner, or whether their partner is really the right person for them. ROCD can be extremely distressing and can cause significant problems in one’s personal and professional life. If you think you might have ROCD, it’s important to seek professional help.
Symptoms of Relationship OCD
– Relationship doubts: People with OCD often doubt their ability to make a good decision. This can lead them to engage in endless “what if” rumination.
– Relationship uncertainty: When doubts take over, people with OCD often believe that their relationship will end soon. They may feel that a break-up is imminent, or that their partner wants to end the relationship.
– Anxiety and worry: When thoughts about the relationship turn into obsessions, they can cause significant amounts of anxiety. People with OCD often feel gripped by worry and fear that their relationship may end.
– Relationship rituals: When anxiety becomes overwhelming, people with ROCD may try to reduce it by engaging in compulsive rituals. For example, they may ask their partner the same questions over and over again, or they may rearrange items in their home.
– Relationship control: People with ROCD may try to control their relationship and their partner in an effort to reduce their anxiety. They may check in with their partner excessively and try to maintain constant contact. They may also try to control other aspects of their life in an attempt to reduce their anxiety.
Causes of Relationship OCD
Most of the research on the causes of ROCD has been conducted on individuals who have been diagnosed with OCD, but not those with ROCD. Thus, it’s important to note that these causes are likely to be relevant to people with ROCD. ROCD may be linked to genetics and childhood trauma.
In some cases, ROCD seems to occur after someone experiences a traumatic event, such as a break-up or death of a loved one. ROCD may be linked to a faulty “love biochemistry” in the brain. This may mean that a person with ROCD has a lower threshold for romantic love and intimacy than others. ROCD may also be caused by stress, especially in combination with a pre-existing tendency towards OCD.
Treatment for Relationship OCD
The main treatment for ROCD is CBT (cognitive behavioral therapy). This therapy can help you identify and change the thoughts and behaviors that reinforce your ROCD. You may be given specific exercises to help you challenge your ROCD thoughts and understand the process of OCD.
ROCD is a form of OCD, so it can only be treated with a specific form of therapy. In some cases, medication can also be helpful. Medication is unlikely to be helpful with the specific behavioral exercises used in CBT, however.
Living with Relationship OCD
As with any mental disorder, there is a spectrum of severity. Even if you have ROCD, you can manage it and live a happy and fulfilling life with the help of therapy. If you are in a healthy and loving relationship, you should not let ROCD keep you from enjoying your partner. ROCD can also be prevented by learning how to manage your thoughts, emotions, and stress. Engage in activities that help you relax, manage your stress, and improve your emotional health. These include exercise, meditation, therapy, and spending time with supportive friends and family members.
It’s important to remember that ROCD is a treatable mental illness, and you don’t have to let it take over your life. With the help of therapy, you can learn to manage your symptoms and live a happy and fulfilling life. If you or someone you know is struggling with relationship OCD or any other mental health problem, don’t hesitate to reach out for help. There is help available, and you don’t have to go through these things alone.